Children are the greatest gift any person could ever ask for, and as it is with all great gifts who really wants to share? After contemplating this question one can begin to understand the joys of single parenthood. Despite the ever present exhaustion, being a single mom brings me an incomparable joy.
Now, don’t get me wrong – there is times I wish I wasn’t the only one hearing my son crying at 3 am, but those moments don’t add up to the other times when I am so glad I have him all to myself.
Every parent has their own ideas on the proper way raise children, from discipline down to how to dress the children. As a single mom I no longer have to worry about anyone else’s opinion. I believe that my girls can wear any combination of clothes they wish, as long as they are clean and provide proper coverage. I know many fathers that would never go for this, but fortunately for us Mom makes all the decisions.
More serious decisions are also made by me, alone. It is up to me to pick doctors, schools, and childcare. I decide the rules and the punishments that go along with them when the children break them. As a mother I feel I better understand what is truly important for my children to do and what things are less serious and therefore I can let slide. Not to say fathers cannot make good parenting choices, but for me I feel like no one can make better decisions for my children than me.
Besides having final say over all decisions, single moms also have a considerable more amount of quality time with their children. Some may be wondering how this is possible with all the responsibilities a single mom has, but this seems to be the way it truly works out. When a single mom arrives home from work all she has to focus on is her children, where as a married woman must share her time with her husband and her children. By cutting the partner out of the equation an unimaginable amount of time is freed up for the children. Through the increased amount of quality time the mother – child relationship can grow much closer than before.
One of the best things about being a single mom is the freedom to be as silly as I want. If my kids and I wake up and feel like staying in our pajamas all day, we can. There is no one to tell us it is not appropriate. Whenever we get stressed out we have dance parties in the living room, soon everyone is laughing again. We can eat ice cream for dinner, buy whatever we like, and do as we please. Unlike my friends I never have to tell my children, “I don’t know, we will have to ask your dad.”
Being a single mom is undoubtedly awesome. Every day I wake up thankful for my children and the close relationships that we have. I wouldn’t change a thing.