Getting that first date with the man you have been pursuing is so exciting. You have been thinking about it for weeks, and knowing it is finally going to happen makes you dizzy with anticipation! Once you have successfully leaped over the hurdle of getting him to ask you out, another approaches. What will you wear? Choosing an outfit for a first date can be a complicated process. If you want to get a second date with the man of your dreams, there are some things you should completely avoid wearing.
Low cut tops
It’s true that most men are more than happy to look at a woman’s cleavage, but on a first date you should keep it covered. This doesn’t mean you have to wear a roll neck sweater, just try not to show all you’ve got too soon. There are a couple of reasons for this. Firstly, it might give the impression that you are offering more than you are really willing to give. It may be an old fashioned view, but it still stands true even in this day and age. Secondly, a low cut top has massive potential for a wardrobe malfunction. Several years ago, I was flirting with a guy I was interested in at a bar. While we were chatting, the top button of my shirt popped open, showing him much more than I had intended for him to see! He didn’t seem to mind too much but I was mortified. I never saw him again.
You definitely need to be comfortable in your chosen outfit for your first date, but wearing your scruffy jogging trousers and a faded shirt is taking it a bit too far. Anything that has been in your closet for more than two years, or has any kind of damage to it should be avoided. You don’t have to spend hours getting ready but you need to look as if you have made some kind of effort. If you don’t, there is a good chance your first date with your dream guy will be your last.
Anything which isn’t your normal style
Do you remember the episode of Friends in which Phoebe changed her look when she met Mike’s parents for the first time? He said she looked like his mother and the whole evening was a disaster. This lesson can be applied to first dates too. The outfit you choose shouldn’t be too dissimilar to your usual style. You want your date to get to know who you are. Dressing in a different way might give him a false idea of your true personality. Even if are meeting in a casual setting, it is still possible to dress up your outfit while still looking like yourself.
Previously unworn shoes
Just recently I went on a date in a pair of fabulous high heels I had never worn before. After I had taken about twenty steps in them, I realized they might kill me. They hurt my feet in every way possible and by the end of the night, I could barely walk. If you must purchase new shoes for your date, make sure you give them a test run around the house to ensure they won’t cripple you. This includes checking you can walk up and down stairs in them. No matter how incredible you look, your date probably won’t be very impressed if he has to carry you around all evening. It is much less hassle just to wear a pair of shoes you already own.
Too many accessories
We’ve all seen those women who wear nine rings, twenty bracelets and seven necklaces, and that’s just to go to the supermarket. Okay, that may be a slight exaggeration but I’m sure you know that I mean. On a first date you should try to look understated. If you are dripping in jewelery, the chances are your date won’t know what to look at first. It is a distraction, and the only place you want him to be looking is into your eyes. Choose a couple of your favorite pieces of jewelery and let that be enough.
Comfort is a definite must when you choose first date clothes, but remember you must also look as if you haven’t just thrown on the first clothes you found. Wear clothes that define you as a person but most of all, keep it simple.