After being in the same relationship for 20 years or more, raising children, growing up together, learning, changing, becoming one, Valentine’s Day may not be what it was in the beginning, but it could be so much better.
You and your love may have racked a lot of miles on the old relationship odometer, but that doesn’t mean the love story is over. It’s like a seasoned grill, the more food that’s cooked, the better it tastes. For all of you who’ve been with your mate for more than a few years, you know how important it is to keep those fires burning. In the beginning, the romance is sweet, fun, heart racing and romantic. It may not feel as exciting all the time as the years go by, but it can be, with just a little effort.
After you and your partner have celebrated your 10th or more anniversary, whether it be wedding or just being together, you can not only read each other’s minds, you almost melt into one personality, welcome to a higher love. You may not need all the hearts and flowers as much anymore, but don’t think he or she doesn’t want to be romanced a little either. A special card that really makes your special person feel as if the card was made just for her goes a long way.
Here are some other ideas to let her or him know you wouldn’t want to spend your life with anyone else.
1. For all you naughty vixens out there, text your honey a picture of a body part, yours of course. You decide which part and let him guess which one it is. You can take some racy pictures of an elbow.
2. Leave him a seductive message, don’t leave your name, but do let him know how you can’t wait to see him and what you want to do.
3. Leave a hidden message for him on the bathroom mirror. After taking a shower (or if you have glass shower doors), write a note with your finger. When he goes to use the shower, he’ll know that you were thinking about him.
4. Post it notes are fun, get maybe 30 of them and put an “I love U” or a message that means something to the two of you all over his dresser, the bathroom, kitchen, in his wallet, car, wherever he will find them. I promise you, you will be all he thinks about all day.
5. Stir up some memories past, recreate your first dinner together or first date. Talk about the things you talked about that day. You’ll both realize together how far you’ve come.
6. Create a common code or sign between each other. This way you can always say I love you and no one will know but you two.
7. During dinner, light some candles and turn off the t.v. and cell phones.
8. Buy one of those inexpensive, cheesy brag books. Fill it with photos from your early days and important times in your relationship. Leave it in his briefcase, desk, car seat, dresser drawer, he’ll be pleasantly surprised.
You know your partner better than anyone. Use what only YOU have to spice up your love life…your history. Memories, experiences, the life you’ve shared are the foundation of your love. No one else can claim these or mean as much to your partner as you do. Use your history to create new memories.
Remember to close the shades and have a Happy Valentine’s Day!
