Do you have a family member who frequently behaves violently? Are you unsure on what to do when the family member behaves violently? To help understand the impact a violent family member can have on the family unit and what you can do to deal with a violent family member, I have interviewed therapist Caffee Wright, LPC, NCC.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
“I am a licensed professional counselor who has worked in the field of counseling and psychotherapy for thirteen years. I have a private practice that offers mental health and substance abuse counseling services. I am also a certified family violence intervention provider in the state of Georgia. This program helps people, who have been violent, learn new ways of interacting without violence or verbal abuse.”
What type of impact can a violent family member have on a family?
“Violence can have an impact on everyone in the family and the impact on children can be many. Children are impressionable, and they model the behaviors of others in the family especially parents. When children see one parent being abusive toward another, they believe that violence is the way to get their needs met. Violence in the home can also cause children to become anxious and nervous. Sometimes children act out as a means of protecting the person that is being abused and focus the attention on them. In addition, violence can lead to injury or death.”
What are some tips for dealing with a violent family member?
“Safety should be the primary focus. Violence is illegal, and it is important to seek help when someone is being physically abused. Domestic violence is a legal issue. It is important to call 911 for help. Also, the National Domestic Violence Hot-line at 1-800-799-safe (7233) provides assistance twenty-four hours a day seven days a week. In addition, there are domestic violence shelters in many states that can assist the person who is being physically abused.”
What last words would you like to leave for someone that is dealing with a violent family member?
“It is very important to realize that no one deserves verbal or physical abuse. One should seek help immediately. Many times women are abused by the men that are suppose to love and protect them. Love is not painful. When someone says they love you, remember, that they should not call you names, put you down, isolate you, hit, slap, push, restrain, or hurt you physically or mentally. There is help for domestic violence and domestic violence is a crime. For the individual who is violent. You can change your behavior. Many states have domestic violence intervention programs that are available to teach you how respect others and treat your partner as an equal. Do not put it off. Seek help now.”
Thank you Caffee for doing the interview on tips for dealing with a violent family member. For more information on Caffee Wright or her work you can check out her website on www.TheCounselingGroupAUG.com.
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