When a dominant/submissive couple transitions into a 24/7 live-in relationship, there are often some unrealistic expectations that need to be realized in advance. Unless a couple is prepared for the differences that are bound to be revealed, they may be setting themselves up for bitter disappointment.
It is important to remember that a power relationship can look very different when you see your partner on an occasional or even weekly basis. When you only see your partner for one session every week or two, the dynamic is bound to be very intense. After all, you only have a few hours to express your power and submission in whatever ways you most enjoy.
Moving into a live-in situation with your partner can be very exhilarating. Some submissives have ideas of constantly serving and pleasing…both sexually and otherwise. Some dominants may picture their submissive always around at the dominant’s beck and call…ready to please and serve in whatever capacity needed.
The truth is that when a power couple enters into a live-in relationship, their fantasies are doused with a dose of reality. Family, jobs, health issues, bills, financial woes all suddenly enter into the relationship. The submissive may start to feel ignored if the dominant is spending too much time working. The dominant may start to see the submissive differently as well…especially if the dominant gets to view the submissive in power situations (such as work situations). They will begin to see each other’s habits, both good and bad. They will begin to see who is messy and who is neat. The relationship suddenly has several different dynamics that were not there before.
The good news is that it is possible for a dominant/submissive couple to survive the transition to living together. Here are 5 tips to get you started:
–Accept the reality that you cannot live in a fantasy all of the time. It would actually be boring to be a hard-core dominant or submissive 24 hours a day.
-Learn to incorporate your dominance and submission into your normal day. Spankings, servitude, humiliation, and power exchange can happen in short blasts or intervals during the day. A submissive can wear nipple clamps while doing naked housecleaning. A dominant can give daily tasks for the submissive to do with specific instructions to be followed. Use your imagination. Take advantage of the opportunities you never had previous to living together.
–Learn to appreciate the different sides you see to your partner. When you live with someone you will come to know the person in ways you never did before. Embrace the newness. Don’t forget to laugh together.
-Learn to see the beauty in simple service to your dominant. It could be something as simple as laying out your dominant’s clothing for the next day or serving a simple meal. Make it an act of love that comes from deep within your submissive heart.
-Set some ground rules. Important things to consider are finances, various household responsibilities, and expectations from both the dominant and submissive. Getting these issues sorted out before you actually move in together will ensure smoother sailing in the long run.
Transitioning to a live-in relationship with your dominant/submissive partner does not have to be so difficult if you follow the above steps. Change is difficult, but can be a time of tremendous growth.