There are many hardships that come with being a single parent, but also many positive things that enlighten your life. Nobody will ever guarantee as much love to you as your child can. A child’s love is forever and everything else is a maybe or whatever. Your child gives you a lasting loving relationship that allows you to be the go to person. You will know each other for the rest of each others lives and you will learn many things from each other.
Two Common Misconceptions
Single parent families are dysfunctional and the kids will suffer problems because of it. The fact is that we do indeed face challenges but we are also equipped to meet these challenges head on to make a positive outcome. My kids do live in a single parent family home but it does not change the fact that we give each other love, stability, safety, and meet each others needs. These things do not change because there is not two parents in the home, therefore it is far from dysfunctional.
Kids do not have the luxury of seeing their parents share a loving experience. This couldn’t be further from the truth in my case. I suffered a traumatic abusive relationship with my ex and finally had the courage to leave. So honestly, my kids seen the improvements in attitudes from me as a single parent. A much healthier environment that also showed them good things can come out of any situation given to them.
The Awesome Side Of Single Parenting
The time that I get to spend with my children is our special time. There is no stress of someone else telling my kids or myself how to run our time. It is all on me and I do my best to make each moment special. We get the time to build an extraordinary loving relationship with each other. We trust only in each other on our time to make sure every moment is a great one.
There is this indescribable pride that I hold daily within myself because I’m providing a wonderful life for my children all on my own.
Having the knowledge that my children are not taken for granted. That they are loved by so many people without having to hear pain in their daily lives.
There is plenty of room in my bed for my girls to crawl in when they are having a nightmare. Being able to provide them comfort when needed with nobody to tell me how I should do it.
As a single parent, I have 100% control when my kids are with me. We can live as a comfortable family where they have the one person to talk to at that given moment instead of choosing sides.
Building confidence in all of our characters in all speeches we give each other. I give them compliments to build up their self-esteem and they do the same for me. We do not have to ask for these things, we do it all on our own. It’s nice to hear that I am a beautiful, fun loving mommy. This works wonderfully if they see you doing the same for them, they learn from us daily.
They see me independently taking care of them and that I am capable of doing such. This will build the same character in them. Which is a great quality for every human being.
There are no fights about finances, housecleaning, activities, or anything because it’s all up to me to do all of these things. I can do whatever I feel is right with these things. With the calm measures throughout the household, kids are much more comfortable.
It’s also important to take time for yourself. I do it when my kids go to visit their dad every other weekend. It’s a great time to relax and get things done. This wouldn’t be possible if you lived in a two parent home. It’s so great to look at the great side of things, not the negative.
I could list so many more things because being a single parent is one of the best things that I have ever done with my life. I don’t have to feel alone when I have my children to love. I do not regret my choices because it gave me two beautiful daughters that I love more than anything. Life throws things at you and tries to bring you down. But you just have to pick yourself up and look at the positive side of things.