Sex Ed is a wonderful thing. It’s so important because there are lots of parents that don’t talk to their kids about sex, and some of the ones that do don’t fully educate their children about it. If kids only depended upon their parents to teach them about sex, they would end up not knowing a lot of things.
One problem with sex ed is that abstinence is usually taught, even though some people swear that abstinence isn’t realistic. But others say that teaching about contraception encourages kids to have sex, and abstinence is the best way to go. So what should we do?
Personally, I think parents need to be more involved in teaching their kids about sex. To many parents refuse to talk to their kids about it, then have the nerve to get upset about the way the schools are teaching them. If you want to make sure your child is being taught correctly, then it’s your job as the parent to do that-not the school’s.
The problem with teaching only abstinence is that the kids will never know how to protect themselves if they decide to have sex. Kids who are only taught to practice abstinence are in danger of pregnancy and STDs because they know nothing about condoms and birth control. It’s not wise to assume that the children will practice abstinence in a society that glamorizes sex day after day. Sex is everywhere, and there are going to be a lot of kids that give in to that. If they are not properly prepared to protect themselves, then there could be some horrible repercussions. We should do what we can to stop kids from suffering those repercussions-and that means promoting contraception.
I do think abstinence is realistic. I’m 22, and I’ve remained abstinent up to this point. But I realize that it was a struggle at times. Some people aren’t going to deal with those struggles-they are just going to give up. When they do that, they need to be protected. Teaching kids about condoms and birth control won’t promote them to have sex. In fact, it actually helped me to stay abstinent. I felt like I knew about sex fully, and I didn’t need to actually have sex to learn anything else. A lot of people don’t realize that when kids are curious about sex, they eventually do it. If you teach them everything they need to know, that will combat some of that curiosity, therefore increasing their chances of staying abstinent.
Black teen girls (and Hispanic girls) have the highest teen pregnancy rate in the country . If you will talk to these girls, they will tell you that their parents never talked to them about sex and contraception. They basically learned about sex by actually having it. Had they been taught about sex and contraception ahead of time, they probably would have not done it. And if they would have done it, they would have known how to protect themselves from teen pregnancy.
If we are serious about protecting these teens from the real problem (pregnancy and STDs), then we will teach them about both abstinence and contraception. Keeping them from having sex shouldn’t be the main focus. Sex isn’t the problem-pregnancy and STDs is the problem.
Other articles you may be interested in:
Teen Sex: Totally Wrong or Totally Natural?
I Think I’m Ready: An Article for Teens Who Are Ready to Have Sex
Love Thy Self: An Article for Teenage Girls: Love Thy Sexuality