As the phone continued to vibrate, I stretched out beneath my pillow to retrieve the handset. “Hello”?, I whimpered. “Mommy, I think I just got my period”, was the reply on the other end. Of course, at this point all traces of sleep vanished. “I sat on the toilet, and then I saw red in the water. Do you think it’s my period?” As shock slowly vacated my now paralyzed body, I mustard up the strength to answer, “calm down”, “I want you to go to the bathroom, take tissue and wipe gently from front-to-back and let me know if there is any blood on the tissue”. This was one of many false alarms and in fact, it turned out that my youngest daughter’s nose had bled and she disposed of the tissue in the toilet and never flushed.
For the past 12 years I have been dreading the day when it happens. It has been forbidden to be spoken in my time, and now I am expected to have a talk with my daughters, Jazz, 12 and Starr, 11. Is any mom ever really ready to discuss womanhood with their not to long ago, little girl? I doubt that, and all the stories and shows about the nervousness is actually true. As a young mother, who would have benefited from this talk, I understand how important it is to have open, honest communication with your children.
It helped a lot when I learned that the “talk” was given, and demonstrated (thank you lord) in hygene class. But it is still my responsibility as a mother, to make sure she understands and address any questions if necessary.
It surprised me very much as Jazz continuously asked me questions about her possible period arrival. She almost, no definitely seemed excited to finally get her menstral. It puzzled the heck out of me and immediately prompt my probing function (the one all mothers have when children act strange). I never met any human alive, male or female excited about menstration, hence the probing. I asked, “sweety, what’s with the sudden happiness about getting our period”? Her response of course was “nothing, just wondering”.
It was pretty obvious that her other friends had theirs and Jazz was feeling left out, but I need her to understand the seriousness behind proper hygene now as she puts it “I am a young woman now”. I still continue (2 months later) to stress clean practices and proper care while menstrating and everyday practices regardless of menstration. It’s not so scary now, and I actually enjoy our talks, and time spent together while shopping or just watching tv.
I encourage my girls to talk to me about anything, yes including sex. I have a lot of issues and experiences as a mother of two now preteen girls. The good thing is that they both benefit when one goes through something. Being a year apart makes it easy to group our activities, and gives Starr the ease and upper hand on her sister’s past experiences. I have two very bright and beautiful young girls, with much stress on “young” since I still have to scream to have some cleanliness; however, as a team, we take things one day at a time and enjoy each second spent together.
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