How you can overcome the jealousy between your own children? If you give one child something, the other one can be extremely jealous!
Since I have three kids, I am trying to keep balance between all of them. I sit down with all my children and explain how we can work the issue of jealousy, which is working wonderfully.
If you have more than one child, you can do the same. I found that it gets overwhelming just by taking all three kids shopping at the same time.
I am taking each child individually shopping or just plain one on one day. Child will feel special and have my full attention at the same time. Than we have family day usually once a week, so everybody can have fun day with mammy and daddy.
Try to make that day special for your child. Do what they are interested in and avoid expansive gifts because if you buy one child expensive gift than more likely that the other child wants the same. You end up spending more than you want to.
Instead take the child with you and buy what they really need, and the other one will understand. Also let them work as a team. Make a statement that “nothing would make you happier than all of them cleaning the rooms together, helping each other and working as a team”. That way all the children would have the same tasks and can’t say “you gave me more work to do!”
If you can’t avoid leaving one or more children at grandmother’s house than try some different options. Take them to playground, or plan fun craft day at your house. Let each child build or do individual art and make sure to give them tons of compliments. Children love compliments as we all do, so just by saying to every kid “how wonderful idea?” or “how did you come up with that amazing idea?” say it with an excitement and surprise so they know that the each child did great job.
It is hard to keep that balance so they don’t feel like they are left out. Talking individually can help with a jealousy. Each night 30 minutes before bed go to each of their rooms and talk about their day, about school est.
Or read a book if you run out of the words. If they are sharing the room, sometimes it is easier talking together and let them take turns.
Those little nightly visits are so great and special. My children love when I came in the room and before kiss goodnight sit on the side of the bed or just climb in and talk about everything. They would tell me everything and that is important to me because I can give helpful advices and what they can and can’t do; that way your child will always turn back to you and ask whatever is bothering him/her. However, before you leave the room let her/him know that you will spend some time with his/her brother or sister. Children love attention and that is always the issue. Try to give each child individual, helpful and education wise attention. Buying gifts all the time will just make them wanting more, and that child’s excitement last for day or two once they get what they want.
Never reject the child! That is red flag just in the word “reject”, especially if you are doing something with other sibling. It is important to stop whatever you were doing and let him/her know why you have to do this and that! Go on their level and explain that he/she will have a moment with you as soon as you are done!
I hope that I helped you in some way. That practice changed my children to overcome jealously in an early age and I will continue with it in the future.
