Are you looking for that one? The person who makes you smile, will watch chick flicks with you, will go and get some late night Ice Cream and know your favorite with out even asking you?
Honestly who ever said that relationships between a man and a woman was ever going to be easy back in the day needs to be brought to today’s culture and realize that this is not so easy. I’d really love to look at them in their face and tell them they might want to re-think what they say. I do love how there are a ton of Relationship books out there that talk about how to get you to talk to your partner, but do any of them really talk about how to deal with the day to day? Do any of them really state that there will be good days, bad days, and days where you want to take a frying pan to your partners head (not that I would ever do that…No offense to those who have had to), what I am saying is not to bash men, please do no think that because I have a wonderful boyfriend who knows how to cook, clean, do laundry, help with taking care of the Cat and Dog, no he’s is no sissy man, he is a good man. We have our fights, we have our disagreements, but at the same time we have learned that if we don’t talk things thru on a daily basis, if we don’t try to be honest with our partner then we never get down to the deepest part of knowing what is real.
I’ve always wondered who knows more, my Grandparents who were married more than 50 years, or my parents who were only married for a few years and divorced, or if Dr. Phil knows it all (in a good way, not a bad thing) but you see your Grandparents who are from a totally different Generation and have been married for what seems like forever and you wonder what was their secret, how did they make it work during all the tough times that they went thru, but you look at your Parents and see that they took the quick way out by Divorcing instead of really working the problems, what ever they were.
You read all these articles out there reading of how couples are divorcing because they don’t spend time together, how they just don’t understand one another, or because their families don’t like the other persons. I wonder how these couples think, I wonder how they get through their days because they can’t handle things and that first opportunity they have they throw up their arms and call it quits with no second thought of possibly going through counseling, getting some type of outside help that may eventually help them in the long run.
Now this article is not about bashing relationships, or how people handle their business. What I am wanting to do is to get people to think about what steps need to be taken on making sure that the relationship works out. Now there needs to be an understanding that you and your partner are two totally different people, no matter where and how one was raised there is a complete 100% difference. The two of you come together and start mixing your lives, but do it in an understanding way, be sure to ask each other what they like and what they don’t like about things because you never know if the curtains are going to match the new furniture that the both of you are going to pick out. Also get to understand that eventually the both of you will be sitting at home doing nothing at all and then you come to realize that you enjoy sitting at home doing nothing. It can be cool at times. Learn to Explore things together, find your likes and dislikes, look for places that the two of you may want to go and visit together, if he or she does not want to go then tell them, “You do this, we will go to where you want to go” be sure to hold to that promise because that’s the worse thing you can do is mess that up. Keep your family out of your business the best you can, tell people what you want to know when you want them to know it, learn to keep things as private as possible.
When you find love, make sure you understand that nothing lasts forever, there is no such thing as “The One” and that you get your head out of the clouds and start to think about what it takes on a daily basis, you two are never going to agree on everything, but at times you can win a battle at a time. Trust me, I’ve had to learn this lesson the hard way.