As a parent, it is your sole responsibility to train up your children in the way they should go, precisely in the right way. Thus, it is your duty to give your child a moral up bringing.
Parents love your children,
Provide opportunity and security for them
But teach them to be responsible.
In all truth, the fact is that you train your children by how you handle them. When a child disobeys instruction, the child ought to be disciplined but if you do not, you are training that child to ignore instructions. On like manner, if you want your child to be honest, you have got to practice or implement honesty in all your dealings before him or her. If you do smoke, please do not do it at home or in the child’s present or else, you are teaching your children that ‘smoking is right and best for their health’ and that is wrong. I suppose you know.
Catherine is the first and only daughter of Ben and Kate James. She is just eight and very cute young girl that has been endowned with so much beauty. Catherine came so late into the marriage life of Ben and Kate. She came when least anyone expected Kate to become pregnant, because Ben and Kate have been married for so long, precisely about thirty-five years of marriage life without issue. Luck was on her side when she took-in and gave birth to Catherine at age of fifty-five. It was really a miracle. So Cathrine coming was a thing of joy, a one of peace and a one of great relieve to both Ben and his wife.Catherine coming called for lots of celebrations, namely; celebration of thanks-giving, Celebration of parent hood and so on. As a result of the nature that surrounded Catherine, an only child to an aged parent, Ben cared for Catherine to the level that he never allows her to handle anything that may likely involve stress or trouble shooting. Her clothes were washed by her mum or their servant maid that live with them inclusive her other responsibility. But Kate was unlike him; for she will try to make Catherine do what she was suppose to do.
Little did she know that her manners towards Catherine will transpire problem between Ben and her. This took place during Ben one month vacation.This vacation is was over a period of one month unlike other vacation that last for just one week, usually whenever dad was around Catherine does whatever she likes and avoided whatever she wants to avoid. Fortunately for Catherine this time dad’s a month vacation consided with her school long holiday’s vacation. So this time was much fun for Catherine to what may be labelled as ignorance or stupidly. This time Catherine avoid vitually her duties, responsibility and obiligations. Such as sweeping of the house, washing of plates, learning to cook and reading her books. All she does now was always playing, and keeping late night, as a result she stopped attending the family morning devotion because she wakes up late. While this was happening, one day mum confronted her, urging her to change but all to no avail, all her pleading fell to deaf ears.So one morning as about 10am as she was still on bed, mum got angry, woked her up and gave her six strokes of cane; in addition, mum force her to carry-out her responsibility. She was made to wash her cloths, for the first time. While wash her cloths, dad come across her at the backyard and learnt what happened.
‘Now where is mum’ he inquired.
‘She is in the kitchen’ she replied
‘Get your hands off this cloths and get back to your room’, dad told her. She did exactly as she was instructed. Approching mum, then shouted at her.
Why did you have to beat up Catherine? Mum calmly explained everything, as she had also complained to him before she carried out her actions; and as she usually complain about Catherine behaviour.
Was that why you messed up my only treasure for the future, he angrily shouted back at her. And as Kate was about to say something he slaped her thrice with his right hand and warned her to keep away from everything that has to do with Catherine or he will do more than he just did to her.
As a result of his warning, mum refrained from disciplining Catherine but she never fails to always advice her about her life. So Catherine grew up to become a spoilt child. She become a young lady that cannot cook; a lazy person as dead as a dodo and a very unserious person with education, who calls examination hell. Due to how Catherine was inequiped she could not established a relationship with men that can lead to marriage, this lasted for so long, to the extend that people stated pointing fingers and dad asking God questions that the answers certainly lies with him.
It took Catherine six years to fix up her life, and mum became her best friend and dad came apologizing to mum. She got married to a well responsible handsome man at the age of thirty-one.
Catherine story teaches parents two basic things:
1. The benefits of training your children in the right way.
2. The consequence or dangers of not disciplining your children.
In the family story we learn that:
i. Protecting and defending a child when he or she needs to be disciplined, will only worsen issues in the child’s life.
ii. As a parent, do not argue with your spouse when they complain over the children or try to inculcate discipline into the children. Instead cooperate with your spouse to save the children’s lives.
iii. A father can get angry over a son maneuover but that fathers anger is also part of his love for his son.
The four basic principle of good parent are:
1. Confidence: Confidence is what children need throughout the course of their training, to enable them cope with the training strategies outline for them. Boasting confidence into your children will inspire strength, hope and deligience into them. Parent celebrating the efforts, the commitment and the struggles of your children, will help to boast their confidence in reaching to their potentials.
2. Compliments: One of the laws of human nature states that, “everyone who recieves compliment feels good, special and exciting”. Respecting the weakness of your children, listening to them or getting them understood, and encouraging them is part or complimenting.
3. Discipline: Disciplining is tough love, and tough love is the best love parent should offer their children. Discipline is the focal point, the target and a major purpose of parenting. Do not miss it. Remember you are doing your job and it begins from when the child was born.
4. Role Model: As a parent, you are a role model to your children, thus always be concious of the examples you set. Be sensitive to your words, thoughts and deeds; because the impression of your attitude influences your children.
Training your child in the right way can seem too hard, the child may feel hard-pressed but when you are through with him or her, the child will come to understand the plan you have for him or her; that your training was for good, to give them a sound future and a hope.
Grace be with you!