I did not set out to find love online. What I did set out to do was find some comparable co-writers. You see I am a songwriter and I wanted to find some partners that I could write with so they could add and enhance some ideas on some partially written songs and hopefully I could collaborate some new songs with. I was on AOL at the time and I did a profile search for other people who said they were songwriters in their profile. I found a few and emailed them. I had connected to one writer who was male and lived not that far from me. I thought it might work out great. I was wrong. He was looking for romance and let me know that for him writing and hanky panky went hand in hand. I emailed to say I would not be showing up for our meeting and I continued to write alone for another couple of months.
Then one day I received and email from a writer who said he enjoyed reading my profile and that he was looking for someone to collaborate with. I really didn’t pay attention or respond because I thought that it was just another man looking to get into my pants so I let it lay. A few weeks went by and I had told some friends about the email and they asked if I had responded and I said “no.”. They said I should write back as “you never know, this guy may be on the up and up.” So I took their advice and I wrote back.
I heard back from him about a day later and we started collaborating immediately. It was amazing how I could live literally half way around the country from this person and be able to create music this way over the Internet. It was quite exciting and fun and I looked forward to our weekly writing sessions with enthusiasm and creativity.
After about three months of co-writing we started telling each other a little more about ourselves and our personal lives and a friendship grew. At around six months we exchanged photographs. I sent him a photo of me in a blue dress and he sent me a CD of Christmas tunes he had written. That Christmas season I went to sleep every night by the sound of his voice as his Christmas tunes had turned into my nightly lull-a-byes.
Right after Christmas he sent me a song he wrote for me called, “You Sure Look Good In Blue.” I played that song for my mother and she told me that my co-writer had a thing for me. I argued and the next day I told him what my mother had said and his response was, “smart lady.” That February 14th, I received gorgeous flowers in a vase, a card and a gorgeous little gold cherub angel necklace and chain. His Valentine Day card told me how much he loved me. I sent him a card and half of a heart necklace to wear as a token of my love to him. The other half was to be worn my me until our hearts could come together in person. We both still have our halves.
That was 15 years ago and in July we will be celebrating our 13th Wedding Anniversary. Ours was a happy ending but not all end that way. I would say there are all different ways to meet people. When new avenues of communication are developed there will be always be new ways to meet people. If you are thinking about meeting someone either on a blind date, from online through a social network, freelance or a dating service always use common sense and please don’t take any unnecessary chances. Don’t rush into meeting. It took us almost two years before we met in person for the first time but we were pretty sure how it was going to go even before the first meeting. Take your time, take it slow and if you have the ability to run a background check on the person then you probably should. Heck, I have girlfriends that should have run background checks on guys they met in bars and even some that they were introduced to by family and friends. It would have saved them a lot of heartache. Good and bad come in all shapes and sizes. Use and listen to your own instincts. If something seems to good to be true than it probably is.
Have fun, be safe and I hope you find you’re happily ever this Valentine’s Day.