Think for a moment about what you would do with three wishes. These wishes are not granted by the genie in a lamp. Rather, each wish is a part of your life’s plan. Each represents three levels of change that serves to improve your life and the lives of others: Mega, Macro and Micro. These three wishes will impact society, your loved ones and you.
Your Mega wish is effecting change in society. You must begin with the end in mind. Write out your vision for what you can contribute towards a better society. Your Mega wish is a mission accomplished of fulfilling your life’s purpose and adding value to society.
Everyone has a purpose on this Earth. If you do not know your life’s purpose, consider these questions: What are you most passionate about? What would you do for free? There might be other questions that can help to clarify your purpose.Determine how your vision will cause others to grow, become healthier, wiser, and liberated to serve others – the hallmarks of a servant leader. Do you want to make a buck, or make a difference?
It does not hurt to have a plan B regardless to how well your vision and purpose are defined. This does not mean that you live in fear of the unknown. Rather, your vision is a road map that directs you to a specific destination. A road map has your primary route and alternate routes if you need to change course. The key is to know when a change is necessary.
Now, your next wish is the Macro level of change: those sacred places of relationships with family, a partner and friends. No man is an island. For years,I tried to be one and thought that I was pretty good at it. But I found out that even an island needs the water surrounding it to be an island. Reaching your goals and fulfilling your life’s purpose may require you to need others, and that is okay.
Nurture your relationships. Practice respect, honesty, openness, compassion and acts of love with the ones you love. Listen with a loving ear; live and let live; develop compassion over blame. Blame desecrates those sacred places. Compassion expands it. Do not take loved ones for granted. You cannot make time last, but you can make lasting times.
Your third and final wish is the Micro level of change: You! Consider how your values, personal achievement and fulfillment will shape your response and commitment to the Mega and Macro levels. With this in mind, make sure that you are aligned with the right people.
Your commitment might cause conflict with others who benefited from your unwillingness to cultivate your life towards purpose. Well, decide unapologetically that this is who I am, this is what I want, and this is how I will get it.
Enrich your knowledge by becoming a lifelong learner.Not as a professional student, per se. But rather, as someone who seeks opportunities to learn and grow. The day I admitted that I did not know it all was my day of liberation.
Finally, accept the importance of “me time.” You cannot neglect self-care. Savor spending quality time with you. You must allow yourself to be renewed. If you are empty, you have nothing to give. What can you do today to show the world that you love yourself? Where is the most peaceful place in your life, and how much time are you willing to set aside to spend there? We are bombarded with so much negativity these days. Somehow, we need to find the goodness that life offers and live it.
You can reap a higher return when your Macro and Micro levels of change contribute to the Mega level. What better time than now to begin the plan of your life!
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