I’d like to tell you all about my resolutions for the new year. In the process, I’ll explain why my resolution is much, much more likely to succeed than yours. Basically, I’ll tell you why you never keep your New Year’s resolutions. I’ll also tell you what you can do about it to change that. So, are you ready for my resolutions for this year? Here it goes, it’s a doozy… My New Years 2011 Resolutions are: To become a full-time freelance writer.
What? Waiting for more? Don’t. You’ll be waiting until I’m done doing this one.
Full-Time Freelance Writer
This is my only resolution for the New Year. Why? You ask? Why only one resolution? No, it’s not because I’m unambitious. I am quite ambitious. However, I know myself well enough to not make more than one resolution at a time. And I don’t make a new one until the first one is complete. I know in years past, I have made multiple resolutions, and went pretty gung-ho on them for a grand total of about two-three weeks, until I ran out of steam. Sometimes, it would only take about two days. So what makes me think that this method is so different?
Why Our Resolutions Fail Us
For one thing, the major problem with our New Years Resolutions is our commitment to them. For the vast majority of people, we are not committed to our resolutions. And that is a result of how we make them, and how many we make. The problem with commitment (yes, it’s the all-powerful miracle cure for all of your ills, but it has its draw-backs) is that the average human can only commit to one change in their life at a time. No, that wasn’t a typo. Just one . You cannot commit to twenty different things. The reason for this? Commitment requires one thing above all else, and it has taken me some time to realize this. That one thing is Focus . I’ve heard it said that focus is the secret to success before, but I’ve never really understood it in my gut. There’s even some speakers who say that focus is an acronym. But the real secret, is that it takes focus to be committed to something. And without commitment to doing that something, you won’t do it. Yes, there are little things you do every day that don’t seem to take commitment, but you’ve made them habit, most likely back when you were a child. You can just decide to do any of those actions, and you will, because you made the commitment earlier and then made the action subconscious.
How To Make Better Resolutions
You can make sure that your resolutions never fail you. Or rather, that you never fail to meet your resolutions. Here’s the simple steps to doing so: Choose the most important, and make that your only resolution. Then, work on it daily until you’ve met it. Sounds too simple, doesn’t it? Well, it works. Yes, you can do other things during the day, but if you only actively work on making one change in your life at a time, you have a much higher chance for succeeding. There are certainly other things that you can do to improve your chances, but if you just get a calendar, and mark off the days that you worked on achieving your new habit or lifestyle, even if it was just a tiny amount each day, those tiny amounts add up to a lot in the long run. Withing a month or two, you will have achieved most of the more daunting goals, and for the rest, you’ll probably be almost there.
Want an example? My previous resolution happened sometime in late September, and now, I’m safely entrenched in that new habit, so it is time for me to make another resolution. What was that resolution? Well, I’ve written about it before for Associated Content. I decided to not eat wheat anymore. No, I’m not allergic. I just decided that since it’s one of the most harmful substances that I was taking in at the time, that I should cut it. As a result, I’m much more fit looking than before, even though I haven’t added any major exercise to my life since then.
So here’s my challenge to you: Decide on which of the improvements you were looking to make in your life will have the most good for you, and chose that one as your New Years Resolution. And then, start working on it. If its something like exercise, decide on your plan, and implement it slowly at first. Start now. If you’re going to work out more, start by walking for 5 minutes every day, and never miss it. When you can do that for a week, then add another component, until your workout looks like what you wanted it to look like. Just get out there, and do it!