I like the TNT show, “Men of a Certain Age“, although I didn’t like Ray Romano much before this show and just didn’t find him funny. He always struck me as being kind of middle-of-the-road and blah like the boring neighbor you see outside cutting the grass every Saturday. This is why the character that he plays in this show is perfect for him. Ray Romano stars in the show and is the executive director.
Romano’s character, Joe, is a real guy with real problems that a lot of people of a certain age can relate to. He has an emotionally troubled son, a failing business, he is divorced and confused about dating. He is a great golfer with a hell of a swing but no confidence and he is fighting a serious gambling addiction while having a hard time coming to grips with aging. Joe is sensitive, sometimes overly-sensitive, and he is thoughtful. He wants to be a good guy but is often lured by things that are not so good like his former bookie who wants to now be his BFF. Joe is pretty cool with his own reality, but seems like he’s waiting patiently for life to get better, which he often talks about with his two best friends, Terry, who is played by Scott Bakula and Owen, played by Andre Braugher.
Terry is a wannabe actor who just can’t quite seem to make it and can’t seem to find his niche anywhere else. He is a womanizer that changes girlfriends like he changes his socks and he doesn’t care about things of the heart. He just wants to have fun, be free and have a good time, yet he is starting to feel age creeping up on him and the thought that he is not where he would like to be in life occasionally haunts him, but only for brief seconds.
Owen, a diabetic who is having a hard time managing his illness, is a straight-laced, married guy with a tolerable, but sort of typical and very loving wife and a bunch of little kids. He runs an auto dealership with his father, who is a force to be reckoned with and a bit of a control freak. The dynamic between Owen and his father is interesting and played out well by both characters. Every time the father appears, Owen is almost reduced to a little boy trying so hard to please his daddy, yet angry and frustrated that he still feels he must at almost fifty years old.
All three men are simple and complex at the same time. Their lives are typical, their friendships wonderful and their handling of things not always so good, but the do try to kick life in the butt when life fights back. The show is real and natural, jumping from funny to poignant to sarcastic to witty. The interplay between the three friends is dynamic, yet humble All in all, it’s a great show, but there is one thing that I think Ray Romano got wrong.
Owen is married and not dating, Joe is dating and not doing it well and Terry is partying it up in the lower regions of any woman that he can get his hands on. These woman seem hypnotized by Terry’s good looks and charm and the fact that he’s an actor (albeit an unsuccessful one). The women just seem to stop, drop and roll the minute Terry smiles. Joe has had a few women give up the goods just as easily. Now mind you, these are women of a certain are; mostly over forty I would guess.
Women in their forties, who are single, are single for a reason most of the time. Some older women may be loose sexually because they simply just want random sex without emotional attachment. It may be because she is married and in fling-mode or just enjoys single life, but let’s be realistic. Most woman over forty do not give up the goods that easily and just for a random roll in the hay.
A single woman of a certain age usually guards her emotions closely and she guards her va-jay-jay like it’s the Hope Diamond. She may be leery of open sexual relationships that are nothing more than just sex.
A single, older woman has often been through the ringer emotionally from past relationships or maybe has gotten out of a bad marriage and is not usually as easy as this show depicts.
After forty, most women want more from a relationship than simply an emotionless bang.
Mr. Romano, you’ve got men of a certain age pretty right, but you are getting women of a certain age a bit twisted.