Jealousy is one of the basic characteristics shared by all humans. Human instinct that always wants to have and do not want to lose someone who they likes, make them feel annoyed when someone who is considered as their own have a relationship or interaction that is too close to another person. Most people think jealousy is dominated by women. Whereas men can feel the same if, for example, people who he liked making out with another man.
Jealous instinct is something very difficult to ignore. Even jealousy that can occur without any logical reason. Something that is reasonable considering the feelings of love to someone is part of our lives as human beings who always wanted to love and be loved. But to be not fair, if we can not control jealousy. If we see people we love making out with another woman, jealousy is a natural thing. But if we are jealous just because we seeing people we love chatting casually with others, jealousy is not something that reasonable and logical.
Here are the signs that indicate that our jealousy is illogical:
– Again and again called him couple times a day, and feel angry if our lover do not answer it.
– Asked him to keep talking on the phone even though we know he is busy with his work or the timing is not right to talk on the phone.
– To spy on each activity. Always wanted to know what he was doing.
– When we called to his house and he was not in place, we immediately suspected and accused him in vain.
– Require him to always inform the activities that are being and will be done. And with whom he goes.
How to overcome feelings of jealousy which is absurd and exaggerated. Here are some tips:
– Appreciate what your lover feels. Not only you are beautiful. When you know your lover’s eyes turned to the others who are pretty, do not take it too seriously. It’s just a natural thing. What is important, you know that he loves you, and he has proved his love to you.
– Realize that feelings of jealousy is a natural feeling of every human being. And to overcome them takes time. Feelings of jealousy is a process towards our own maturity and the maturity of our love affair with our lover.
– Try to always think positive and believe that his true love only for us. Think positively about the lover not only to reassure ourselves, but our lover will also be happy. Therefore, if you truly love your lover, do not have negative feelings about him.
But, if we ourselves who are in that position, has a jealous lover, what should we do? Here are the tips:
– Grow in attitude. If our lovers are showing signs of excessive jealousy, we better be quiet. If we do not respond in appropriate ways, the atmosphere will be increasingly difficult, even would arise a quarrel that could jeopardize the relationship.
– Accept only with patience. Maybe he is facing a problem that showed by the reaction that tends to excessively jealous and illogical. Wait until the mood calm. And talk carefully about what is bothering his feelings.
– Reassure him that he was the only person you love. And that feeling of jealousy is unreasonable.
– If it is deemed necessary, tell him about the activities that are being and will you do today.