Life provides us with many opportunities to experiment with our personal style, but in life there are two occasions when it is unacceptable to stray from the norm. These two occasions are funerals and weddings. Even though one occasion is joyous, while the other is somber, both occasions are solemn and demand our respect. When it comes to weddings, one of the most disrespectful gestures one can make is wearing black.
There are many reasons why black is an inappropriate color to wear at a wedding.
1. It goes against tradition. Being unconventional and unique is an admirable quality, but not at a wedding. In today’s society, weddings are less about practicality and more about upholding tradition. Couples in love can express their feelings and commitment in several ways, and a wedding ceremony is just that…a ceremony. All ceremonies, from weddings and baptisms to funerals, require us to honor tradition in order to preserve the sanctity and solemnity of the event.
2. It shows disrespect. This goes hand in hand with going against tradition. Failure to adhere to tradition may not mean anything to you, but it will probably mean a lot to those in attendance, especially to those of an older generation.
3. It is a distraction. You wouldn’t show up at a wedding wearing a bright pink leotard and a fur coat, but wearing black may be just as much of a distraction to those in attendance. You may think you look stylish and trendy, but remember that unless you are the one getting married, this day isn’t about you. Don’t be a selfish attention seeker.
4. It’s in bad taste. From a fashion perspective, black is a color best suited for evening and formal occasions. If the wedding is an evening affair, then wearing black may not be such a big deal. However, if it is a daytime wedding, wearing black will make you look like a fashion idiot.
5. It changes the mood. Black can evoke several different feelings. Worn at funerals, it evokes grief. Worn by judges, it evokes authority. Worn at an evening cocktail party, it evokes elegance and class. The feeling that one wants to evoke at a wedding is joy. If you have a problem with this, you just might be a sociopath.
These are the five main reasons why it is inappropriate to wear black to a wedding. There are many others, not the least of which is that black will most likely make you uncomfortable, since many weddings take place in summer and are held in churches and facilities that may not have air conditioning. Nothing good can come out of wearing black to a wedding, so do so at your own risk. But don’t say that you weren’t warned!