No marriage is free from problems. During a marriage there will be disagreements and arguments, and several problems between husband and wife, but knowing how to quickly solve them before they escalate and get out of control is very important. Arguments can severely damage a marriage. As life partners, you must make some sacrifices and try to resolve the disagreement immediately. Here are a few things that you can do:
Truce or defeat. Your main goal should not be to win, but rather to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.
Do not inflict emotional scars. Do not try to hurt each other by using harsh words that you will regret or will linger in his or her heart forever. This will create bitterness in the marriage.
The silent treatment. Giving your spouse the silent treatment in the hopes that he or she will come crawling back may work in the beginning of the marriage, but gets old over time. In some situations the silent treatment could backfire and create more problems.
Decrease the tension level. Instead of exacerbating the situation by turning up the volume and making an already difficult situation worse, try to bring an end to it in a calm and peaceful manner.
Withholding sex as a punishment. Today it is easy to get sex whether paid for or not, so withholding sex from your partner can lead to many other problems that could have been prevented.
Disagreement or misunderstanding. Sometimes arguments can get out of control, so determine if it is really a disagreement or simply a misunderstanding. This will help to resolve the problem quickly.
Stay focused and on topic. Most arguments start off one way then somewhere during the argument takes a detour into side issues that is not relevant and can make matters worse. It is best to resolve each problem immediately.
Communicate and talk about feelings. Communication is key. Communication your feelings, needs and desires will help to clear up any misunderstandings and angry feelings. Being open with your spouse and not hiding the way you feel will help him or her to learn more about you and to have a better understanding about certain things. It can also prevent unnecessary arguments in the future.
Pointing the finger. Pointing the finger and placing the blame on the other person to draw attention away from your shortcomings or the problem at hand will never get the issue resolved. It will also prevent you from addressing your own faults and prevent changes from happening.
Do not agree for agreement sake. If you agree to something you must keep your word. Words are simply not enough if they are not followed by action. The best way to show your significant other that you are truly sorry and want to change is to do as you promised.
Hardly any marriage is free from the occasional arguments and disagreements. None of us are perfect, but we should at least strive to be especially when it comes to keeping the family structure together. The main goal that you should have when disagreements occur is to bring it to an end as quickly as possible without any bitterness or resentments, or else the next fight will be looming in the horizon.