Nothing quite zaps a couple’s intimate relationship more than the birth of a baby. But does that mean sex will be more or less out of bounds for the next two decades? What can you do to regain intimacy with your spouse following the birth of a baby?
Give Your Wife Time to Heal
A woman’s body is fully equipped to deal with the amazing changes that come about during pregnancy as well as during childbirth, but the body also needs time to heal and recover following the birth of a baby.
If your wife has had a caesarean section, an episiotomy or she experience difficulty during the delivery, she will need time to heal physically. Medical practitioners often advise couples to wait 6 weeks after the birth, even when the birth has gone smoothly, before they resume normal sexual relations.
Don’t Lose Sight of Each Other’s Emotional Needs
With the constant round of dirty nappies, early morning feeds and mountains of laundry to get through, the first few weeks of a baby’s life can seem like a blur of activity. For the parents, it is easy for them to devote all their time and energy to their baby that they lose sight of each other’s emotional needs.
Remember that intimacy with your spouse does not start and stop at sex. There is a lot more involved in a loving, intimate marriage. Do not forget the little gestures that can mean so much such as holding hands, cuddling up together on the sofa after baby has been put down for the night, and sharing your concerns, fears, hopes and dreams.
Enlist the Support of a Babysitter
Everyone needs a break from time to time, even if it is just a few hours so that you and your spouse can have the opportunity to spend some time alone together or to get some much-needed rest.
A babysitter can help give you that time alone to recharge your batteries so that you will feel refreshed when you see your baby again. If grandparents have been asking to babysit since you came home from hospital, take them up on their offer! They can get to bond with baby and give you the chance to rest.
Regaining intimacy following the birth of a baby can be a challenge, as the parents will be exhausted from their responsibilities. However, that does not mean to say that the couple should let their relationship suffer. Intimacy is important in marriage, but it should not start and end with sex. Explore other ways to be intimate, such as holding hands and making time to spend alone together from time to time.