If you are now on your second pregnancy, but still have a young child in the house, you and your partner need to make sure that your first child is involved as much as possible. If a young child suddenly doesn’t get as much attention as they were not that a new baby is coming, they tend to act out or feel less important. These are both things that you want to avoid. So, here are some tips on how your young child can be involved in your pregnancy as well.
Read Them A Story
One of the most important things that you’re going to have to do once you find out that you’re pregnant again is to tell your son or daughter the good news. It’s best to tell them at a time when they are relaxing, because you don’t want to overexcite them. Bedtime is a great time to let them know. Right after their bath, if you usually read a story to them, read a story about a new baby coming into the world. A good book to pick up is “The New Baby,” by Mercer Mayer. As you are reading the story to your child, explain to them that they are going to be going through all the same things as the characters are and give them some extra time to ask any questions that they might have.
Take Them To The Ultrasound
If your doctor lets you, take your child to the ultrasound with you so that they have something to look at and realize that their really is a baby growing inside of you. Make it a special day taking your child out for ice cream or for lunch afterward so you can have some time with them before the baby comes.
Another good way to get your child excited about the baby that is coming is to let them help pick out some clothes and to help pick out things for the nursery. Then they can already feel like they are the big brother or big sister that has to help take care of their sibling that is on the way.
Children are scared that when a new baby comes along that they will be forgotten, so go out of your way to reassure your child that mommy and daddy have enough love for both of them.
When Baby Finally Arrives
When your child finally gets to meet their sibling, don’t yell at them if they do anything wrong at first. Just tell them to be gentle with the new baby. Also have your child pick out a present to bring when they first meet their new baby brother or sister. And it’s a good idea to have a present that you can give your older child, that is from the baby as well.
Good luck with the new addition to your family and remember to always treat both children like they are both very important people in your lives!