Are you attracted to your friend’s husband? Do the feelings of attraction for your friend’s husband seem to be occupying your daily life? If you answered, “yes” then it is time to do something about it. Being attracted to a friend’s husband is something many women experience at some time in their life. For many the attraction is just an attraction and feelings generated from that attraction don’t grow. For other women they allow themselves to enter a danger zone where the feelings of attraction take control of their life. If you are in that danger zone there are things you can do to help manage your attraction for your friend’s husband.
Think about the consequences of where your attraction for your husband’s friend can lead. When a woman is in the danger zone they are allowing their feelings of attraction to take control. When in the danger zone a woman is more likely to flirt and act sexual around the friend’s husband. If your friend’s husband senses your attraction for him and he also enters the danger zone both of you could end up having an affair. An affair with your friend’s husband may appear exciting and hot however think about the consequences. What would an affair do to your friendship with your friend? If you’re married it can destroy your own marriage? If children are involved they will become devastated and hurt. To top it all off your own feelings about yourself will change. Many women end up feeling depressed, angry and experience a lower sense of self-esteem.
Make a list of things that are not so great about your friend’s husband. When women are in the danger zone they are also in fantasyland. The friend’s husband appears to be the hottest, funniest, nicest and most wonderful man in the world. The reality is your friend’s husband like all other men is not perfect. So avoid focusing on how great your friend’s husband is. Make a list of things that are not so great. Since you are in the danger zone you could have a difficult time seeing anything negative so ask your friend to tell you all the things she doesn’t like about her husband. Seeing the negative qualities of your friend’s husband can help throw you out of the danger zone and reduce your level of attraction for him.
Redirect your attention to something else. Frequently day dreaming about your friend’s husband isn’t going to get you out of that danger zone. Instead your feelings of attraction will continue to grow. So every time you find yourself thinking about your friend’s husband redirect your attention to something else. For example, watch a movie, call up a friend or do some fun activity to get your mind off of your friend’s husband.
Stay away from your friend’s husband! Do everything possible not to be around your friend’s husband. Get together with your friend alone. If there is an event where your friend’s husband is also there do everything possible not to be in the same room.
By following these steps you will be successful in managing your attraction for your friend’s husband. If you still feel your having a difficult time then I would suggest seeing a therapist who could help you work through those feelings of attraction and get you out of that danger zone.
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