So how do you get her or him to fall in love with you? Is there a magical secret to win anyone’s heart to your favor? Maybe there is one special thing that can make a person fall in love with you, and all you have to do is that one thing. Could it be a special scent you can buy from the department store and spray on you, a pheromone or something similar to make anyone weak to your powers? Well, yes and no. There is a simple way to make someone fall in love with you. It may take some work on your part, but it is very simple.
When we are single and trying to attract others into our lives, we go all out to look the best we can, we work out like maniacs to get that perfect body. Our clothes are the latest styles, and have heavy price tags. We grab the attention of others and maybe date a few times then move on to the next person. There we are again and again in the same place we were when we started and the cycle begins again. So what happened during our bonding process to make one or both of us run for the hills and back into the single world?
The first date, we are the perfect gentleman or lady being careful with what we say and do. Men are opening the doors for the women and being on their best behavior. The women are ladies, listening intently to the conversation keeping eye contact so he knows she is interested. The date ends with a kiss and both parties are anxious to meet again, going over the night in their heads smiling and content they have the beginning of something wonderful. The second date the charm is flying from both ends. Everyone is happy and things seem to go very well. Next thing we know you are several months or years into this relationship, and you wonder why you keep trying to keep things going. Maybe you aren’t even trying anymore, and instead you are waiting for the perfect opportunity to get out and on with your life. How did it get from date one to this point again? Why do we keep attracting those losers? If we take a look at how we progressed through the courting period of our relationships, we might find the answer.
Let’s go back to the original question. How do you get someone to fall in love with you? This is the easy part. The answer is by being you from the beginning. If you are acting in a manner that is not consistent to whom you are, then how can you expect them to fall in love with you. The best case scenario in this situation is they fall in love with the person you are pretending to be. This is when we end up in the scenario of the proverbial squirrel cage. Starting and ending relationships never finding happiness with our partners or dare I say us. If we are true to ourselves, we will attract those who want to be with us. If we are attracting people who want to be with someone like us, then eventually we end up with someone who loves you. And now we have a relationship that can last and have meaning and substance, aka a healthy relationship.
If for some reason we don’t like who we truly are, then we can’t expect anyone else to like us can we? Now we get to the hard part. One of the hardest things anyone can do is to take a look inside us and point out the things we don’t like or don’t respect about ourselves. Most people already know what they do and don’t like about themselves, but keep the bad locked away. The beautiful thing is we can change the bad things. It is going to take effort and honesty, but anyone can change. In fact, the only thing we can change in life is ourselves and how we react to outside stimulus.
The reason we don’t change is because it is much easier to not change. But if we choose to be the person we want to be, and we work towards being that person, we grow and mature. When we grow and mature we become a better person and we begin to like ourselves for who we are. If we like who we are, we will be ourselves around other people, and begin to attract those who are capable and want to love someone like us. Then, and only then, do we have a chance to build a healthy, loving, rewarding, and long lasting relationship.
By Guy Russell : Love, Romance, and Relationship Resources Romancemore.com