Many parents worry about their kids in college. They worry about them partying too much, they worry about them eating healthy, and most of all, they worry about their kids in college getting good grades. Sure, your kids are adults and can make their own choices regarding their academics and how hard they work, but there are still ways that you can encourage your college children to get good grades and excel in college successfully.
The last thing a parent wants to hear is that their college child has gotten placed on academic probation by either failing a class or getting sub-par grades. When this happens, talk to your college child in depth about the particular struggles they are encountering and why they believe they have failed to keep better grades. Try to withhold judgment when your child tells you it’s because they simply didn’t study. Instead, lightly tell them that you are proud of them for trying, and you don’t feel less of them because they aren’t getting the best grades. Some college students get overwhelmed when they switch to University or during their first years of school, and with more experience, will learn how to balance their academics.
Encourage your college child to take a lighter load if they are feeling overwhelmed. Don’t pressure your college child to take more credits than they feel they are able. On that same note, if your college child wants to take more credits than you believe they are capable of taking, encourage them to talk to their adviser before adding on that additional class, so they can get input from more than just you. Your college child will listen more readily to a school adviser about their academic abilities than your advice.
Be involved the first year or 2 of your college child’s studies so you know exactly what classes they are taking and how well (or badly) they are doing in their classes. Be present when they speak to their advisers about the classes they are taking, so you know that you your college child is not only on the right academic track, but taking classes within their learning abilities, while still being pertinent to their degree of choice.
If your college student is struggling in one particular subject, encourage them to take additional study groups or tutoring to help them with their class, or encourage them entering a lower-level class in the subject to refresh their knowledge. Financial and student aide will still cover the lower-entry courses, even if they are not directly credit related. It’s better to take beginning Algebra first and not get college credit for it than to enter a higher level math course and fail it, which aide will not pay for.
Don’t pressure your college child to get a degree in a certain amount of time. If it takes them 3 years to get an Associates, so what? Let your child know that you are comfortable with whatever slow pace they are choosing to get their degree in, even if it’s part-time, so long as they are doing academically well and not just wasting time.