Many women would likely say they trust their friends around their boyfriend, but what happens when you start to suspect that someone near and dear to you is hiding an interest for your man? It’s not so easy to just confront the person and making accusations without any proof makes you look jealous and a bit psychotic. Before making any snap judgments and potentially ruining both your relationship and friendship, consider these signs that suggest your friend might want your boyfriend.
She Contacts Him Behind Your Back
It’s not unusual for people who have loved ones in common to become friends and talk, but when she’s trying to be sneaky about speaking with him, that’s when you need to consider it may be more than just a friend talking to a friend. If she tells you she’s going one place but stops by his work, tells you she’s texting “nobody” only to find out she’s contacting your boyfriend and lies about how often they actually talk, it’s time for you to have a talk with her and your boyfriend.
She Always Does Little Things For Him
Friends often do little things for each other, but when it seems like she’s doing things for him that you would normally do, is making a habit out of giving him “little surprises,” or is giving him presents that are quite expensive, the little gestures may not be so innocent. Unless she’s been a good friend of his for a long time and this is just her personality with close friends, she’s walking a very thin line between being a friend and trying to replace you.
She Suggests That You Invite Him Along
Once in awhile, suggesting that your boyfriend comes along isn’t a big deal nor is her planning a night out with a group of friends and telling you that you can invite him if you’d like, but her suggesting it too often could spell trouble. An even larger telltale sign is if she invites him without your knowledge after she already invites you. Unless you have a horrible memory and she knows you would likely forget to ask him, it may be her way of making excuses to talk to him followed up by a reason to see him.
She Gets Touchy With Him
Some girl friends and guy friends are touchy with each other, but it’s innocent, usually amusing in a joking way and non-sexual. These friends have likely been friends or acquaintances for quite a long time or developed a close friendship before you came into the picture. A friend of yours that doesn’t have such innocent intentions might stand very close to your boyfriend’s face while speaking to him, may subconsciously try to hold his hand or might brush against him while walking past when there’s plenty of extra space so she didn’t have to. She’ll usually make any excuse possible to touch him.
If these signs sound like a friend of yours, it’s important to talk to her in a calm manner. Hear her out and give her a chance to explain without you interrupting or accusing her of anything. After you talk to her, if she still doesn’t back off, it may be time to talk to your boyfriend and kick your friend to the curb.