Immigration is not just a huge step for the person who is set to move abroad, but also for family members who will be left behind. Immediate family members often have a hard time coming to terms with your news. What can you do to overcome objections to your immigration?
Objections Related to the “Wrong” Timing
One of the most common objections that immigrants face is that they are leaving at the “wrong” time. While it is true to say that it is not always the best time to immigrate due to a death in the family or other emergency situations, in the eyes of many family members, there will never be a “right” time to move. Once you have made the decision to move, you will need to let your family know that this is the right time for you.
Have You Really Thought This Through?
Immigration is costly, time consuming and stressful for all involved. Facing the “have you really thought this through?” scenario on top of everything else you are going through is enough to send some people over the edge.
Before you answer this question, it is important to take a few deep breaths and read between the lines. What this question roughly translates into is this: “I don’t think I’m ready for you to move so far away. When you move away, I will miss you.” Once you understand the real meaning behind such statements, you will be in a better position to help your family see that you will miss them too, but that this is the right decision for you.
What If I Never See You Again?
Even if your parents or siblings do not directly say this, many are secretly thinking to themselves that once you board the plane, they will never see you again. Let them know that this could not be further from the truth and then outline ways in which you will keep in touch.
Technology can be used to your advantage, especially when you are separated across the miles. Regular phone calls, social networking sites, Skype and other methods are just a few ways to keep in touch with family back home. Do not forget to remind them that you are still very much a part of the family and that visits are not out of the question.
Immigration brings with it a long list of dos that need to be accomplished before you can set off on your new life abroad. One of the most common problems that immigrants face is objections from their family. In the last few months and weeks, do not waste those precious moments arguing over trifles. Rather, spend time together and help your family overcome their objections.