Women, when entering the dating arena, please avoid the “make the guy jealous” strategy. You know the jealousy tactic I’m referring to. You like a certain guy and you want to get him to notice you so you hit on his friend, acquaintance or random stranger, all in an attempt to make the guy you’re interested in jealous. This is a dating strategy you most likely learned in high school or middle school and it should stay there. In my opinion, attempting to make a guy jealous is the worst dating strategy ever invented. So, please avoid it at all costs.
Admittedly, I am not the first person you would approach for dating advice. However, with regards to this dating tactic, I believe I know what I’m talking about. I’ve seen this strategy implemented with both success and failure. Now, if you want to attract a one night stand or “no strings attached” sexual encounter by all means proceed with your jealousy tactic. Because, it will work. Notice, I didn’t say it might work. It will work.
Let me lay out a common dating scenario. You like person A and desire a relationship with person A. So, you decide to play hard to get. You talk to person B to try to make person A jealous. Amidst your flirtations with person B, person A (the long term relationship potential, marriage potential) gets utterly turned off by you. They don’t see you as playing hard to get, they see you as playing the field. Meanwhile, person C (the one night stand, NSA encounter) becomes interested. So, in a way, your jealousy tactic has succeeded, but with the wrong target person.
You end up hooking up with person C because he’s hot and it’ll help make person A (your initial target) jealous. Well, guess what? You’ve managed to attract the slut and push away the long term potential, marriage potential man. It won’t be long before you realize that person C just wanted a one night stand and that person A is now disgusted by you and totally uninterested. So, now you are left with low morals, having had a one night stand with a slut and you’ve ruined any chance you ever had at obtaining the relationship you were striving for – one that is long term, lasting and meaningful.
Simultaneously, you’ve just provided yourself evidence that making a guy jealous can work. By flirting with person B, you can justify to yourself, you made person C jealous. In reality, you merely painted a target on your back. By flirting with person B to get to person A, the predator person C found an easy target to have sex with. And, maybe, you took it far enough to have sex continuing to think your actions would further make the initial target jealous. In reality, person A will never approach you in a romantic way ever again. As opposed to attracting the target, you have utterly repelled him.
But, at least you got off. So, if that’s all you want, have at it. But, be warned, that one night stand, NSA encounter was just that – a predator devouring its’ prey. If you want something real – a meaningful romantic relationship – avoid the jealousy strategy at all costs. It is the worst dating tip you have ever received in your life, guaranteed.