What women really want, but aren’t expecting in a man. That’s how it’s gotten to be and the book, “The Man Code” addresses that very fact. In my review of “Bachelor Pad” winner, David Good’s book, I achieved a better understanding what goes on “under the hood” and saw things from a Man Code man’s point of view.
The book, published by Imagine Media, LLC just after David won “Bachelor Pad” with Natalie Getz in September 2010, is what every woman should read. It’s for women about men. Not just any man — the type of man women really want, but for some reason don’t feel they deserve a “Man Code” man nor demand the qualities of one.
Beginning and Intent of David’s Book
David Good has a direct, informal approach in his book intended to “empower women by helping them decipher the unspoken rules that govern masculinity.” David states that the Man Code isn’t just about respect, chivalry, and pride, but a standard that a man holds himself to as well as other men. It’s a species of men that we’re seeing less of in a society full of a myriad of other types of men falling short. As a woman reading the 97-page e-Book, I can tell you, David succeeds in giving women something to work with in deciphering the Man Code man.
David begins his book with a touching dedication to his father who has always been his hero and to his mother, whom he thanked for the hard work and sacrifices she made a single mom. His parents divorced when he was 9-years-old.
In addition, he was grateful to ABC for being on “The Bachelorette” and “Bachelor Pad” among nice mentions towards co-stars, Natalie Getz and Jessie Kovacs.
David Good’s Background
David Good witnessed the hard work of his father driving trucks as a young boy and often accompanied him on hauls from West Alexandria, Virginia to Dundee, Michigan. He reminisced about his experience learning from man’s man and how pride and hard work bring about real results, not a sense of entitlement by doing nothing. Working years in a bucolic setting taught David the value of physical labor as he baled straw and later drove trucks just like his dad.
David knows “Man Code” men inside and out because he’s been around tough guys all his life who are just like him. Good differentiates the difference between bad boys and Man Code men in his book. Man Code men have a set of standards they abide by no matter the circumstances.
Cracking the “Man Code” Man
In cracking the “Man Code,” Good outlines the very basics in understanding the tough guy and recognizes what frustrates women. A man who lives by the Code isn’t always the best listener when stories take over 30 seconds to tell. Additionally, he’s honest when he shares Man Code men are “baffled” when a woman talks to them a problem, but she doesn’t want them to “fix” or find a “solution” to the problem.
As an author, David expresses that Man Code men are literal minded and don’t pick up on subtleties. Yes, that does drive women crazy, but after reading and reviewing what David was communicating in the pages of his book, it made more sense and I gained a better understanding of how Man Code men think and feel. It rests on the belief some of us women are aware of — that a Man Code man doesn’t know how to show what he’s feeling other than by sincere actions for those whom he loves.
They want to be accepted for their way in showing women their love — and not the way we believe we should be shown. David reiterates that “Man Code” men love wholeheartedly and a woman should never settle for less than a man who can provide and actually does what he says he’ll do, not just says what he’s going to do.
Women Are Powerful in the Existence of “Man Code” Men
A hilarious, but profound observation by Dave Good was brought to light in the chapter Where Have The Man Code Men Gone. Good writes, “When the first step to fixing a faucet is getting out the Yellow Pages, there’s a problem.” Many women can relate to this frustration when it comes to having a man not too great in the handyman department.
David has a check-off list of what Man Code is for women. Among many of the qualities a Man Code man has, he pays for dinners, opens doors for us, gives up his seat for us or another, and in the bedroom sleeps closest to the door as a measure of protection in case an intruder barges in. A man living under the Code works until the job isn’t only finished, but stays until it’s perfect.
The “Bachelor Pad” winner goes on to say that a Man Code man has a core set of values and always holds true to them. In all, women are seeing less and less of these chivalrous men and David makes us realize we are very much a part of keeping the Man Code alive by demanding good treatment and helping men get back to equal status on a variety of levels where this species of men are less existent.
David Good touches on the topic of sex as well and refers to Man Code men as “serial monogamists.” An entire chapter is dedicated to this subject.
He Wants Happiness as Much as His Partner
David Good’s book is a superb book which clearly identifies that “Man Code” is “inclusive,” not an exclusive sort of guy’s club. To lean on a woman is a real compliment because a man living under the Code doesn’t want his “pride jeopardized.” He’s the kind of man you want on your side and one you want in a relationship. In essence this book reveals that a man living the Code wants happiness and partnership as much as a woman, but they go after it like a “blunt instrument.”
I highly recommend this book and in concluding my review, will give it a 10 out 10. David Good invested the winnings from “Bachelor Pad” wisely in seeing his dreams for this book to be published. This is a helpful tool for all women and even men.
“The Man Code” is available in e-Book or hard copy on his site at http://mancodebook.com/order/ . The price is $22.99 for hard copy and $14.99 for the e-Book which can be downloaded immediately.
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Source: “The Man Code” by David Good