“Bachelor Pad” winner David Good has something he wants you to know: he’s really not a jerk.
At first glance he may have seemed that way, a tad cocky when he appeared on “The Bachelorette” back in 2009. Who can forget his infamous man-fight with contestant Juan Barbieri, when Good chastised Barbieri for not drinking a shot with the rest of the fellas and thus breaking the coveted ” Man Code.”
Today Good is back and he’s talking about that same code- but this time it’s for the benefit of women.
In his newly released book, “The Man Code: A Woman’s Guide To Cracking The Tough Guy,” David Good attempts to help ladies unlock the code to understanding “men’s men.”
Good is old school, seemingly nostalgic for the 1960s (which occurred, incidentally, before he was even born). He’s envious that our parents got to date, “where the guy drove over to the girl’s parent’s house, looked the dad in the eye and shook his hand”.
But contrary to Good’s actions on “The Bachelorette” (which he offers no excuses for and admits was simply bad behavior on his part), in “The Man Code,” Good explains that his code isn’t about being in a boy’s club.
It’s no surprise that Good claims he had a “bad edit” when he was on “The Bachelorette.” It was a TV show and of course the producers wanted to create dramatic storylines. But he also admits that while he did indeed do everything that we saw, it didn’t all play out exactly the way it was shown on TV.
According to Good, “The Man Code” is about insisting on a man who exhibits pride, chivalry, and respect- a guy who’s a man among men.
The son of a trucker (later his father went on to build a multimillion dollar company), Good drove a semi-trailer at the age of 14.
At age 9, when his parents divorced, his father told him, “You’re the man of the house now. Look out for your sister, and hold doors open for your mom.”
Words of wisdom he has heeded his entire life.
When it comes to knowing if your guy is a Man Code man, Good offers a few markers:
Man Code men work first and play second. Their mantras include “Love the one you’re with” and “Be a stand up guy.” And, perhaps most importantly, Man Code men have passion.
And the little things count, too. Does he sleep on the side of bed closest to door? If your guy has you sleeping next to the closet monster, he may not be a Man Code man.
Good disses “the Jake Pavelka’s of the world,” guys who are “willing to trade their dignity for the girl.”
And one other thing: A Man Code man won’t marry you if you sleep with him on the first date.
Of course, one or two Man Code rules border on the inane:
Men code men don’t drink anything pink or red.
Not entirely fair- can’t a Man Code man be a wine connoisseur? But Good advises guys to forget the wimp drinks- Man Code men order a bourbon on the rocks at the bar and nurse it.
The book is full of interesting tidbits about Good, who ultimately lost the girl when he appeared on “The Bachelorette” but later went on to win the jackpot on “Bachelor Pad” (chivalrous dude that he is, he agreed to split the $250,000 prize with his partner on the show, Natalie Getz.)
In this book we also learn that the handsome Good was almost cast as Season 13 “Bachelor” but lost out due to the already-popular Jason Mesnick.
Good’s “Man Code” is an entertaining read that may just have you looking at your guy in a whole new light.
You can order “The Man Code” here.
Source: Good, David, The Man Code: A Woman’s Guide to Cracking the Tough Guy. Imagine Media LLC: 2010