Before I watched Episode 4 of this season’s Bachelor with Brad Womack, I thought of five things I wanted to see happen tonight:
a date with Chantal O.;
a trip to an exotic place;
another appearance by Brad’s shrink;
the girls analyzing why they like Brad, and what they have in common with him;
and – the number one thing I wanted to see on the Bachelor tonight – Michelle gets kicked off!
Okay, let’s take them in order. First, the date with Chantal O. Check! It happened! It was the first of two one-on-one dates (much to Michelle’s chagrin), and it was good. Chantal is the one who slapped Brad on the first episode, saying, “This is from all the women in America.” She seemed tough and sharp-edged at first, but now she seems like a good person. She was with a guy before for ten years, married to him for four and a half.
Brad takes her in a helicopter to Catalina Island (pretty exotic), and they go for a walk on the sea floor in wet suits. Even though Chantal is terrified of deep water, she makes herself do it, and the result is exciting. Afterward, she compares the experience to love: “When you put yourself out there, you open yourself up and good things will happen.” That night, Brad and Chantal are very playful with each other. Brad tells Chantal that he feels very comfortable with her and feels that they could have something real. She’s in heaven (which I suppose qualifies as another exotic place). With Chantal, Brad does seem more relaxed and less robot-like than he sometimes appears. He really seems to be falling head over heels. So does she.
The girls don’t analyze Brad and his attraction for them on this show, but they do get to ask him questions about what he wants and how he is relating to each of them. They do this when the group date is a trip to a TV show called Love Line, which stars Doctor Drew and his sidekick Mike. One of these guys asks if they are all physically attracted to Brad: unanimous yes. They ask if any of the girls has cheated. Only one-Stacy, in college, when she was “drunk and stupid.” She’s honest. Brad likes that. Another girl asks him what type of woman he’s looking for. He wants “a very true connection, something with substance.” He also says, “I want someone I can be myself around.”
The doc tells the women to listen to what Brad is saying. He’s said before that being able to be himself with a woman is important.
The rest of the show is taken up with women saying they’re pulling back for self-protection, or they’re not getting time with Brad. Anyone who watches this show knows that that’s the way it is. They should have known this would happen when they signed on. But also, maybe it has something to do with who Brad wants to spend time with.
Brad’s shrink also does make another appearance-check! Brad tells him he feels uncomfortable being with one woman, kissing her, then going on to the next, possibly kissing her. The shrink tells him to pretty much go with his feelings, not what’s expected. Brad likes this. He says he wants to take it slow. Shrink says that’s fine. And if Brad feels like kissing someone, he should go ahead and kiss her.
As for my number one wish for this show, it didn’t happen-at all. In fact, Brad chose Michelle for the second one-on-one date. Michelle, who has alienated most of the other girls with her obsessiveness and craziness (“He’s mine. Mine“), gets her wish for the one-on-one date, keeps emphasizing that it’s her day.
Her day is the day after the group date in which Ashley the dentist pretty much loses it emotionally. It looked like she was going to get the rose that night, but when she started falling apart and being very negative about her experience, Brad said that he just changed his plan. He picked Britt for the rose that night, among other things because of her kissing ability. Little shy Britt really moves in and follows through with the kissing, and Ashley walked in on that scene, hence her mental disturbance.
So the next day everyone is talking about Ashley’s meltdown and as usual, Michelle is annoyed. “It’s my day. Mine.” She acts like the ugly stepsister in Cinderella. Brad takes a few moments to talk to Ashley and reassure her (a nice touch; he’s pretty sensitive to these women’s feelings, it seems), which really pisses Michelle off. But finally they go on their date, driving first to Brad’s house, with a beautiful mountain view. Michelle says this is her style, and she’ll be happy to spend the day there.
But no, here comes a helicopter, and it’s face your fears again. They fly to downtown LA, get off on top of a skyscraper, and rappel down to a much lower floor with a pool. Turns out Michelle is terrified of heights, and Brad says he’s scared too. Michelle says she’s going to throw up, but the next thing we know she’s scaling the building with Brad. The music is romantic and adventurous as they kiss on the side of the building, and Brad says, “Look at you, look at you,” and then, “You did it.”
“We did it,” Michelle says, in a surprising display of camaraderie. And the two of them are bonded by this mutual facing of fears. Michelle has seemed sweet and vulnerable on this date. Brad is very protective and loving toward her. Wow, he has no idea of her real witch personality?! Someone will tell him soon, no doubt.
But for now, he asks all about her daughter, and says he wants to meet her. It looks like Brad is falling for another one.
So she gets a rose, and Britt and Chantal have them. At the Rose Ceremony, three girls go home: Meghan (who has just been encouraged by Brad to “own this as your experience, because you don’t know what will happen”), Lindsey, the redheaded grade-school teacher (“My father will be so proud of me,” she says through tears), and Stacey, the bartender from Boston who admitted to having cheated in college once when she was drunk. Oops.