Many states have laws against gay couples adopting children. Some of them refuse to let gays adopt at all and some other states put restrictions on gay adoptions, such as the states that will allow a single gay person to adopt a child, but will not let a couple adopt a child (in other words, only one parent can actually adopt the child, the other parent will have no legal rights to the child).
The fight over whether GLBT couples should be allowed to adopt is heated and has been going on for quite awhile. Arguments against gay couples adopting range from concerns about the children getting teased and bullied, to accusations of sexual abuse and immoral behavior. Those in favor of gay couples adopting often say that it is just prejudice standing in the way and that two parents of the same sex can provide a stable home to a child just as well as a heterosexual couple can.
There have also been discussions over whether allowing a gay couple to adopt a child will harm the child emotionally and mentally and whether it will influence the child to become gay themselves. If you look at the evidence though, studies don’t really support this theory. Most studies show that gay couples raise about the same number of heterosexual children vs. gay children as normal couples would.
As for whether being raised by gay parents affects a child emotionally and mentally, that is hard to qualify. Certainly children who have gay parents may be more prone to being bullied and teased if classmates know about their family life. However, you could say the same thing for children of black parents or hispanic parents. I’m not sure that kind of prejudice is a good reason to base a legal statute on.
There have been children raised by gay adoptive parents who have been outspoken about how much the experience affected them negatively. However, there have also been grown children of GLBT couples who swear that their family was just as good as any other. The saddest cases are those of children who were adopted by GLBT couples and were sexually assaulted, but that is certainly not something that is only occuring in gay families. Many straight adoptive parents have abused their children as well.
So what do you think? Should gay couples be allowed to adopt or do you think it is harmful to the children? I will say that I do know one gay couple who were foster parents and went on to adopt a foster child. The child that they took in already had some severe issues from his birth family, but has done remarkably well in his new family. As the little boy said himself, “I’m just happy to finally have a real home. I do get teased about my parents, but I got teased when I was a foster kid too, so it’s really not very different in that way.”
Whether you are conservative, liberal, or somwhere in-between, that kind of sentiment should touch your heart.