I do not know you, nor do you know me. Someday that may change. You see, I have two beautiful young daughters (one just turned four and the other is now 2) that may someday come in contact with your son. It may just be for a passing moment on the street, or it may be much more. Either way we need to talk now in order to better prepare for this possible future event. If we wait until then it will be too late to make a difference.
My daughters are precious to me and I have high hopes and expectations for their lives. Those hopes and dreams may very well hang on the man your son becomes. Someday they will grow up and meet someone special. They will each find someone and fall deeply in love. They will no longer be my babies and instead they will be some young mans bride, possibly your son. I will no longer be the one to protect them, and love on them and make them feel as special as they deserve. I won’t be by their sides to lead them or guide them and show them the way they should go. All of these things will be up to your son. You see now why this is so important to me? Your son means a lot to me. I pray for him nightly, and I pray for you as well. This is a huge task and I want him to be ready for it.
It’s up to you to raise your son in a way that will allow him to become the man he needs to be. Without you my daughter has little hope of a bright future. The landscape of America is littered with broken women who have had their lives ruined by boys who were never taught how to be men. Please don’t allow my daughter to become one of them. Please raise your son to be the man you would want to marry your daughter.
The task is overwhelming. I know you are busy and life gets in the way but I am asking you to make this a priority. I can’t tell you how to do this, every situation is different and you must do what works in yours. I do know that there are some things that are important though.
Love your wife.
When you love your wife you are modeling to your son how he should love my daughter in the future. Most of what he knows about how to love comes from watching you in day to day moments that you may never know about. He will become you in this area. Treat your wife like she deserves to be treated. Shower her with praise, serve her and give your life completely over to her. Let your son see you doing this.
Spend time with him.
There is a debate over whether a child needs quantity or quality time. I believe strongly that they need both. Don’t rob your son of this. There are a lot of important things going on in life but there are very few as important as this. Help him build a strong foundation for life to come during these times. He will learn a great deal from just being by you. He will learn even more from talking to you. Share your hopes, dreams, successes and failures with him and have him do the same. He needs you to be ‘all in’ on this and so do my girls.
Be the man you want him to be.
It’s a scary thought as fathers knowing that our boys will someday grow up and be like us. It’s not a guarantee, but the saying that “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” proves true more often than not. Knowing that gives you a great advantage though. In order to have your son grow up to be the man he needs to be you simply need to become the man you should be. Strive to grow and learn. Not one of us is perfect, but we can be perfectible. Let your son see you growing. When you fall, apologize and learn from it. Your son will respect you even more for it.
There is a lot resting in your hands. The future of both of our families relies on you. My daughters deserve a great man, and your son deserves to be that man for her. Please give it everything you have. I will do everything in my power to raise my daughters to be the women that your son deserves as well. Someday we may stand at the back of a church watching our children getting married. We will shake hands and smile knowing that we both did everything we would to give them a good chance at life. I look forward to that day.