Relationships are often built on different grounds. Sometimes they last, and sometimes they don’t. When you are starting a brand new relationship, there are some things you need to consider. Some foundations (like friendship) are great building blocks to start with. A relationship built on friendship will most likely work well. When you build a relationship on faulty blocks (like the ones that will be mentioned), you may or may not be able to withstand the test of time. Here are some examples of faulty relationship building blocks and reasons they may cause the relationship to fail.
While sex is certainly a strong part of a relationship, it should never be the basis of it. Once in a great while, a relationship can form from a one night stand, but the likelihood of it lasting is slim. Most people wanting a relationship will not want to jump in the sack right away. Conversation and getting to know the other person is usually what interests the person who is looking for something long term.
Money is always a good thing to have for stability, but it should never be the basis for a relationship. Financial stability is definitely a top priority in life. It is obvious why men/women would be looking for someone with money, but money doesn’t make the relationship function. You could have all the money in the world and not have any chemistry or compatibility with the other person. Money is also something that can come and go. Unless you own your own company (and even then), your job is always something that can fail at any point. Money is never guaranteed.
Getting Together Because You/She is Pregnant
This is one bad idea! If you have had a one night stand (and this really does happen out there in the dating world), and ended up pregnant or got someone pregnant, jumping into a relationship is not always the best idea. While it is noble to try and “right” the wrong by either being together or getting married, it won’t always work. Make sure you get to know the other person before deciding whether or not you want to be with this person. Getting married or being together “for the baby’s sake” just won’t work.
For Your Parents
This was a popular way to get married or start dating years ago. You should never start dating someone or marry someone just because your parents want you to. While in some cultures and places this is still acceptable, in modern times it is is fading away. It is alright to value your parent’s input, but never do something like start a relationship for someone else.
When you are getting to know someone, you are usually eager to impress them. When you are talking about yourself or something else, lying or exaggerating is never a good idea. If you start a relationship on a foundation of lies, you will need more and more lies to keep covering the original one. The is a cocktail for destruction of your relationship. Lies are never good to tell and even worse to start a relationship on.